I'll take a random item from that list ...

(list being from my post just now)

3. Have I spent some time recently looking at my own attitudes and behaviors as an adult to determine how I am contributing to or combating racism?

This is something my partner and I were discussing last night. I live in a middle-class suburb which calls itself integrated, but when you walk through the schools, it's clear that while the elementary schools are pretty well integrated, the middle and high school are only integrated "in name." The advanced classes are almost entirely white. I moved here when I became single (when my kids were young) because I could afford to live here--just barely, but I squeaked in. I wanted the kids to be in as good a school district as I could manage. Unfortunately, that means white. Our racist, immoral education "system" in the usa dictates that local municipalities fund most of their own school districts' budgets. So, white towns have much better schools. My admitting this shameful fact about my participation in the system now--now that they are older--doesn't help anyone. I can't say 100% that I would choose differently, if I had it to do over. I hope I would, but I really don't know. But I did move here then. So I have some deep changes to make, now, in how I live, what I do, etc.

White, privileged women, please feel free to plunge in with your thoughts, any time! The water is brisk.